I have a great family! I can’t swap that for anything not even for a last name like Dangote(okay, maybe a little Dangote blood would do).  I grew up in a very supportive family. My father encouraged me while learning to play classical piano. My dad one way or the other inspired me to write. My parents never discouraged me from playing ‘actor and actress’ with my pens and pencils. I never got a rebuke from trying to learn to draw, play the guitar or any of those skills I tried learning as a child.

But I wish there were things that I had known or that my parents had exposed me to. And these I won’t take for granted for the next generation.

  1. The Skill of Self Awareness

    We knew who our parents and family stood for. In fact, rántí iru omo tóo jé(remember the family/child you are) was a popular memory line for when you are going to the University and your parents need to scare you about not disgracing them. But how appropriate would it have been if I was made aware of what I wanted to stand for. I admit that growing up we had to mould our individual and discover who we are. But what about defining who you wanted to be not WHAT you wanted to be. So here, let me ask you(and I need you to think about this some more), who are you? What do you stand for?

  2. The Skill of Goal Setting

    What if for every little and seemingly pointless task I decided to carry out, I always thought about the goals? Would that have instilled a sense of purpose? In some degree, I was made aware of goals. But would this have been better if I was allowed to define my own goals myself, guiding me in crafting out achievable goals? Would that have worked for you too?

  3. How to be a faster reader

    Dear God, dear God! I have been a slow reader! This had nothing to do with the amount of books I had or have read. I am a very analytic thinker so sometimes when I read I analyze a lot and so my speed is not so great. There is a skill of speed reading. That skill would indirectly affect your perception of culture, history, perspectives– reality in summation. Don’t you think?

  4. Skill of Meditation

    With the skill of meditation comes the skill of critical thinking, or so I am convinced of! Time outs and quiet times were about reading the Bible– a very boring task as a child. What if I had been taught to meditate? And in its crudest form, to meditate on core, positive and acceptable beliefs.

  5. Interpersonal Communication

    We often limit trainings and self-development to corporate ecosystems and adulthood. What if I could get my child to pick up a notebook,  sit on the porch while learning interpersonal communication and social skills every week.

  6. Saying no!

    Saying no to others means saying yes to yourself. A very important skill I learned late in life. I have learned to always choose something I love to do over what someone wants to make me do. With that you always win each time! Each time, you always win! Don’t you think?

    Some of these are things I will perfect and write about here on HighLifer.co